Monday, March 10, 2008

Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Repression And Sex Scandals

Sex scandals, they have been around since the beginning of time, and technology is simply exposing just how widespread our need is to express ourselves sexually and that for many of us this desire goes far beyond marriage and monogamy. And although women have also been guilty, statistically, men are the biggest offenders.

President Bill Clinton was impeached for getting caught with his pants down. Senator Larry Craig, San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsome, L.A. Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa, Detroit Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick, former Governor Jim McGreevey, Mark Foley, Eliott Spitzer, even Oprah Winfrey is not immune after reports of sexual abuse at her South African school and the list goes on ad nauseam. And these are just the guys who got caught!

So many people go through life trying to live up to social and religious standards and expectations that are not rooted in the male genetic reality. Some men try to deny or control these sexual urges through religion. Last year alone, the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Los Angeles, the largest in America, paid $660 million USD — $1.3 million USD per child abuse claim — to settle lawsuits filed by 508 victims, not to mention the millions of other payouts made by the Catholic church due to sexual abuse lawsuits.

Sexual abuse and sexual repression leads to sexual dysfunction.

I believe that all mutually consenting adults (18 and over) must be afforded the opportunity to express the fullness of their sexuality in honest, responsible and respectful ways and without fear of retribution.

I created Blatino Oasis because I believe that although sex is all around us in our respective communities, on television and on the internet, most men of color who are gay or bisexual don't get to experience our sexuality in a safe supportive environment. Even some gay men are upset with how "out there" other gay men are with their sexuality.

I believe we all need time for self acceptance and sexual healing.

We also need to have honest conversations with youth under 18 about what it means to be a sexual being and how they can express themselves without violating the law and/or feeling like a freak.

Whether you are the President or a priest, straight or gay, single or in a relationship, your genetic male desire will manifests itself despite your religious beliefs or social status. How it manifest and how you feel about it is up to you.


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